Introduction:
War can create the same symptoms as any other traumatic event.
Children need to feel as safe as possible and be reassured about
their safety. Additional factors that should be considered include
the following:
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War can exacerbate fears related to terrorism, just as threats
of terrorism can heighten concerns about war.
· Listen first, and take your lead from your children.
Be cautious about assuming you know how your children will feel
or react.
· Children will react differently to the news of war.
It is not helpful to "force the issue" if it does
not appear to have an impact.
· Children who have experienced previous trauma, or who
had difficulty handling other traumas are most vulnerable during
periods of new threats.
· If your children ask to watch the news about the war,
watch with them, and discuss what you have seen or heard.
· Young children do not have a sense of "video replay".
For instance, on September 11, children did not understand that
the images of the World Trade Centers being attacked were repeated.
Therefore, it is important to limit exposure to television during
times of war.
· Words like "attack, code, heightened alert, bombs,
and combat" can create feelings of uncertainty and fear.
Talk about what these terms mean during this time.
· Help children understand that the United States is
a country that prides itself in having members of many different
races and backgrounds, and this war is in part about protecting
that privilege.
· Reassure children that parents, caregivers, teachers
and other adults including our national leaders are doing everything
possible to keep them safe.
· There is no right thing to say. There is no answer
that will make everything "OK." Communication is the
key. Listening, answering, and reassuring should be at the children's
own level.
· Pay attention to changes in behavior and mood.
· Recognize when your children need help that you cannot
give. Ask for support when you become aware of that need.
· Children who are directly affected by loved ones who
have been deployed may need additional support.
· Recognize your own feelings about war. Take care of
yourself, and ask for support if your need it.
· Discuss a back up emergency plan with your family.
· Maintain routine and structure as much as possible.
There is a feeling of safety generated from just being with
friends and family.
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